Comments on: You all were right

By: Tassia

Tassia — Fri, 02 Oct 2009 07:05:13 +0000

Kids are usually pretty good with this stuff. They’ll grieve in their own ways, but they seem able to move on a lot easier than we can. I remember losing my first cat, I was maybe 5. I cried for a couple days, and then I moved on. Now, I still get choked up when I think about the fur friends I’ve lost in the last 10 years.

By: AboutVetMed

AboutVetMed — Fri, 02 Oct 2009 02:26:16 +0000

Maybe it’s a boy thing?

I remember your g pig post. I immediately related to what you wrote:
“Promise me no more animals for a bit,” my husband said upon looking at my dejected face, and I had choice but to nod.

My hubby has said the same thing and I have done the nodding thing. (thankfully this never lasts long heehee)

By: Dr. V

Dr. V — Fri, 02 Oct 2009 01:08:29 +0000

You should have seen them with the dead guinea pig. I was sitting there crying, and my son was carrying it around like a football yelling “ARIEL DIED! LOOK ARIEL DIED!” without a care in the world.

By: Jeannette Shaw

Jeannette Shaw — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 21:02:14 +0000

What a special little girl,When Jerry our cat died my grandson’s 4&5,said that Jerry was now a 4 legged little angel.

By: Kristie

Kristie — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 16:12:14 +0000

For some reason, the “Queen of All Wild Things” thing made me cry. Surely that is cat heaven, where every cat gets to be the rightful master of their domain that they aspire to in their earthly lives. What a wonderful thought–much more comforting than stupid Kevin.

You’re such a good mommy.

By: casacaudill

casacaudill — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 16:02:43 +0000

I love that she was so adamant about all the great things in cat heaven, including no dogs.

By: Tonya

Tonya — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 15:40:27 +0000

I have been thinking about what you should tell her since you first about this. I’m so glad you were able to have this talk because I changed my mind from hour to hour about what you should do! I just had a feeling she would bring it up when she was ready. Whew!

By: Romeo the Cat

Romeo the Cat — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 14:38:23 +0000

That must be a load off your mind! She sounds like a precious (and smart!) kid.

By: AboutVetMed

AboutVetMed — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 13:44:51 +0000

Oh my – sorry – took a trip down memory lane there. I also wanted to say that I am happy you and your daughter could have this talk. She does get her perceptive and resilient traits from you too – I can see it in your blog over and over!

By: AboutVetMed

AboutVetMed — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 13:42:56 +0000

When my son was 3 or 4, we couldn’t find Bizibah, one of our geese. He had named this goose and wanted to go find him. Hmmm. I thought it was about a zero chance of finding anything, so we started walking around in the pasture. As we rounded the corner of the barn, there Bizibah was. Thank goodness it just looked like he was sleeping, but… he was lifeless. Up in goose heaven.

I froze. The weight of explaining life-death-everything else rolling around in my head. My son just said “Mom we found him. He’s dead.”

I didn’t know what to say – about Bizibah or my son. I think at that age, it was good for him to have a simple answer. He is now 11 and extremely attached to our 17 year old cat (and vice versa!). That will be a much tougher goodbye.