I had some fantastic clients go through some horrible circumstances this year. It comes with the job, the grief and the sadness, and you get used to it to a degree, but there are some stories that hit you even with your walls in place.
A couple of weeks before Emmett died, one of my favorite clients lost their beloved 3 year old dog. That dog was, for lack of a better word, their kid. They had no human children, and they funneled all of their energy and emotion into her. She was their life. She died suddenly, in a tragic accident that could have happened to anyone, but it happened to them, and the grief that would have pummeled any of us truly flattened them.
I know that some people who have children- and even some who don’t- scoff at the people who say “my pet is like a kid.” It’s hard to explain. Obviously they are not the exact same, but it’s in a similar vein. And to them, the grief etched on their faces was no different than that of anyone who has lost the one creature in this world they hold most dear.
They called me today to ask if I would be a reference when they were ready to get another dog. Of course, I said, and told them how happy I was to hear that they were thinking about it. They expressed some reservations and some guilt about wanting another dog, so I told them about Emmett and Brody. As much as I blab about them here, I try not to spend too much time at work dong the same- I’m getting paid to listen to other people’s stories, after all, but in this case it seemed OK. That made them feel a lot better.
Pets are like big furry band-aids, aren’t they? The wounds to our heart don’t heal any faster, but it cushions the blow and makes it easier to bear to have them around. Forgive me, but I have to. I’m going to quote Sleepless in Seattle. Leave now if you must.
(waits for the guys to exit the blog)
“People who truly loved once are far more likely to love again.” Profound words via Rob Reiner. Deal. Dr. Marsha said that to Tom Hanks when he was talking about his wife, but it works here too. It doesn’t JUST apply to humans. I can’t wait for these clients to come in with another pup to dote on. 🙂