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You are here: Home / Daily Life / Cancer sucks / We Will Remember You- Tonight and Always

We Will Remember You- Tonight and Always

February 4, 2014 by Dr. V

Yesterday, I was working on a homework assignment for a course I am taking on pet loss and bereavement. I was reading about the guilt so much of us feel after losing a pet, and one of the exercises they recommend we do is imagine a conversation with our pet. I decided I would try this with Kekoa, as I struggled- like so many people do- with knowing if it was the right time to say goodbye to her last year as she dealt with bone cancer.

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Me: Kekoa, I’m sorry.

Kekoa: I love you.

Me: I feel like maybe I let you go too soon.

Kekoa: I love you.

Me: Do you forgive me if I made the wrong choice?

Kekoa: I love you.

I kept waiting for her to say something else, but that was all she ever had to say. It’s been almost a year, which is hard to believe. February 10th. A Valentine’s Day with a massively broken heart.

But now, I can think of no better way to reflect on this anniversary than to be with all of you, my friends, who can all relate to the special sort of sorrow this kind of loss rains upon us. The first- and hopefully not last- online pet memorial candle lighting ceremony is tonight, February 5th, 6 pm PST. I will be joined by several wonderful friends and we are so honored to be sharing in this event together.

How to Participate:

This ceremony, and this hangout, is for you and all you find meaningful. I encourage you all to participate to whatever degree you wish.

1. Watch

If you like, you can watch the Hangout right here, no special account required.

(Crying along at home is fine, by the by. I wish we let ourselves do that more often.)

2. Write

You can also watch the Hangout at the Google + Event page here. You do not need a Google account to do so, but there are two ways you can participate there that will require an account.

Share a memory: You can click on the Q & A button and write a memory of your pet.

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Share a photo: You can post a picture of your pet by clicking on the camera icon next to the “say something” box. If all goes as planned, I can incorporate those into the ceremony too.

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Tweet a memory: If you post on Twitter using the hashtag #petcandle, I should be able to incorporate those tweets into the ceremony as well.

Above all else I want people to feel included. This is a group-owned event. Feedback after the fact is welcome as well. If you’re not up to watching, we’ll be sending much love to you. And if you know of anyone who might want to watch, I would love it if you could share this with them.

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Filed Under: Cancer sucks, Daily Life, Features, Musings, Videos Tagged With: google hangout, HOA, Kekoa, pet loss

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  1. Sue W. says

    February 5, 2014 at 5:19 am

    It’s a beautiful, wonderful plan and I wish you all the luck in the world that it comes off as planned. Unfortunately, I can’t attend. I just can’t. I can’t do it to myself. I will cry myself ill. But you’ll all be in my heart. <3

    • Dr. V says

      February 5, 2014 at 8:14 am

      I understand. Big hugs to you. I will be thinking of you tonight and sending you love.

  2. Summer says

    February 5, 2014 at 6:19 am

    Can you share the course you are taking? Is it for professionals or pet owners?

    • Dr. V says

      February 5, 2014 at 8:13 am

      Summer, it’s a certificate course in pet loss and bereavement through the Association for Pet Loss and Bereavement (aplb.org). It’s geared to professionals though not a requirement, and mostly based on the excellent reference “The Loss of a Pet” by Wallace Sife.

      • Summer says

        February 5, 2014 at 2:03 pm

        Thanks! 🙂 I’m definitely going to check it out.

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